This is a struggle, Gentle Reader. I have loved my church for a very long time. Sadly, some of that love and obedience formed in my innocence and ignorance. Searching and sorting isn’t an easy process, but at age 71 I need to intensify the quest.
Before I write about Sex In The City, I want to share something so poignant that it is painful. My friend, Martha, recently listened to the teachings of Fr. Dan at the Benedictine Convent in Atchison. Fr. Dan remarked that we worship Jesus, but we do not follow Him. The remark has led to so many disturbing mind pictures.
Imagine the gentle man, Jesus journeying toward the place where He will speak of the Eight Beatitudes. He travels in rough clothing with rope sandals on his feet, a living study of poverty. Imagine that along the way, men and woman who disagreed with His teachings suffer torments to force the heretical thinking from them. Maybe He passed the stake where a burning filled the air with rancid smoke. Imagine the reaction of the gentle man named Jesus. “Blessed are the peacemakers…”
And so to the Second Albatross: Sex
To Review the Sins (Probably Mortal) Connected with Sex
1. Any premarital consensual sexual activity.
2 Any consensual premarital intercourse.
3. Any marital intercourse that does not have procreation as the main objective.
4. Any consensual sex between adults not married to one another.
5. Any consensual sex that has an expression of love as the main goal.
6. Any consensual sex that has pleasure as the main objective.
7. Any sex that uses artificial birth control to avoid conception.
8. Any sex involving women/men who have taken the vow of celibacy.
9. Any consensual sex between two men.
10. Any consensual sex between two women.
To be clear: Any sex between an adult and a child IS the sin, the transgression inexcusable, the abuse and degradation of children through power and authority.
The ten top reasons for labeling sex as sin, one of the strongest and most basic human needs. Not to be flippant, but Dave Letterman never had such an unbelievable Top Ten!
Celibacy is the subject of controversy in the Catholic Church. Some have blamed the sexual abuse of children on the vow of celibacy. That is too simplistic even though celibacy is a method of control over the clergy by controlling one of the strongest and most basic needs of humans–a subjugation. Obviously the required vow has not produced a celibate clergy.
I will acknowledge that controlling a basic need or urge is often a good thing. As simple example is self controlling our gluttonous urges in order to maintain a healthy weight, to stop harmful overconsumption of alcohol. Without any doubt, anger, lust, laziness require moderation and control in a workable society, but not by the clergy and not under threat of sin.
Sex between consenting adults does not need church control. Jesus did not enter the bedchambers in order to preach over-population or abstinence. It is not the jurisdiction of a clergy, celibate or otherwise, to inhibit a couple’s sex life. An unmarried priest can never know the intricacies of marriage, sexual and otherwise.
Maintaining the current teaching on sex is most definitely a decaying albatross putrid with the scandals of abuse.